Tuesday, October 9, 2012

14 Things Every Woman Should Know to Have Better Sex!

I just found this article while browsing the internet, finding excuses not to get up and clean my house for the upcoming play date. I do think this is pretty accurate, at least for me!


1.  Every Woman Has a Surefire Happy-Making Position — Find Yours    Did that! Doggy style for us! 

2. Sex in a Soft, Clean, Comfy Bed Is Underrated: You're supposed to want to do it on the  kitchen floor, in the airplane bathroom, and hanging from your light fixtures. Bah! There's no shame in enjoying your good sheets.   I love sex in our bed, its my favorite spot int he world!


3. Everyone Else Is Not Having More (or Better) Sex Than You Are There is no "normal" amount we should all aspire to, no magic number of times per month that signifies your relationship is hunky-dory. There's only one question you need to answer: Are you having enough sex for you?    I used to struggle with this, thinking I wasn't normal. But with age, I have relaxed about this. I love DH and my sex life. We have GREAT sex!

4.  Asking for What You Want Is Worth the Embarrassment What's a brief awkward moment of sounding like one of those women at the end of a 900 number compared to, well, getting what you need? Yeah, we know I did that one. It was very embarrassing, but sooo worth it!


5.  You Need Transition Time into Sex Look at all the people who want a piece of you — your kid, your client, the guy who's supposed to be renovating your kitchen. So don't expect to make the leap from corporate exec or general contractor or mommy-on-the-spot to sex goddess without a little time to reassemble yourself. When you're done with the dinner dishes, take a shower — alone! — or read a book. Better yet, get your guy to do the dishes. After that, you might want to give him some action, after all.  I love taking a shower in the evening, although DH does too, and often ends up coming in too. And that is our magic time!


6. The More Sex You Have, the More You Want It's simple: Delicious recent memories make you want to reenact the fun. But the reverse is also often true — if you go too long without, you forget how much you like it. Mhh, sure does!

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7.  Masturbating Isn't Just for Dry Spells First of all, it's plain fun, and second, when was the last time you disappointed yourself? Not to mention the fact that more frequent orgasms will keep you craving partner play, too. I can see that, but I haven't done it in a while. I have been pretty happy lately. The other night, DH paused whatever we were watching, slid under the blankets, and just enjoyed himself. So delicious! After, he snuggled me. Mhhhh, just thinking about it is getting me all horny again.


8. Worrying About Your Orgasm Is the Best Way to Chase it Away When your mind is roiling, It's not happening ... concentrate ... he'll think he failed ... what's wrong with me? you're thinking, not feeling. Focus on the lovely physical sensations instead and soon you won't be able to think straight — in a good way. This is why I didn't come  during sex for the first ten years of having sex, maybe even more. Sometimes I can still feel myself slipping toward it. 


9.  Planned Sex Can Be Even Better Than Spontaneous Sex Anticipation as foreplay.


10. Yes, You Can Give Him a Hand Touching yourself to speed up your happy ending is not only allowed, it's appreciated, especially when your guy has had his neck in an awkward position for the better part of an hour. I used to be embarrassed about this, thinking that I shouldn't. Didn't want to make him feel like he can't do it. Needless to say, that is not the case. He loves telling me to touch myself.


11. Sometimes What Your Body Lusts for Most Is Sleep An "off" night or a dry spell doesn't mean your relationship is tanking. It usually means you have children or a demanding job or you need to be alone in your head. Go ahead, take the night off. Yup, sometimes life just gets in the way, oh well.


12. But Sometimes, "Just Do It" Really Does Work If you wait to be struck with a spontaneous urge to tear his clothes off, you may be waiting a very long time. But if you simply decide to give it a go, your body (and your desire) will often catch up.

Yes, I have noticed that too. Sometimes we are lying there, don't feel like it, but then try anyway, and we have had awesome sex that way!

13.  The Way Your Vagina Looks, However, is Perfectly Normal And no, we don't have to see it to know that. I really used to worry about this. And my butt. Before DH ever saw my butt naked, I was scarred be wouldn't like it because I have a rather small butt. But as it turns out, my butt is his favorite!


14.  Sex Gets Better with Age (Or practice, or time with one partner, or all of the above.) The future is looking bright! YES! YES! YES!



How about you guys? What do you think of these suggestions?

28 comments:

  1. Yes to all the above- great post and great reminders!

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  2. These are cute. Now I've got to go clean my house too!

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  3. Some really good suggestions here. Thanks for the reminder.

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    1. :) I was actually surprised at the quality of this. Somebody really had put some thought into it. Although I did skip a few. I think the original had 27...

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  4. Great article. I completely agree with number 3. I have even written a post on it before.

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    1. Yeah exactly! I always wondered about other people, but not anymore. As long as I find it right, and DH does too, then there is no problem for us!

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    2. That was pretty much what I said in my post, at the time my wife was obsessed with what was "normal" and what her girlfriends were doing with their husbands or boyfriends.

      In the end, who cares!? It should all be about what you want/need as a couple.

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    3. Exactly! Took me a while to get it, and actually "get" it, but I got it now!

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  5. Great suggestions, and yes sex gets better with age AND practice I agree.

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    1. Thanks! And I agree, and I like how they put it: Age, or practice, or time with just one and the same partner, or all of the above!

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  6. Sex is better at 49 than it has ever been, and it has been pretty darn good. Ian has always taken very good care of me, but since dd started, OMG, I swear sometimes he could make me orgasm by just suggesting it.....(blushing!!) It is too much power for a husband to have :D

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    1. Ours has always been good too, but now it is amazing. I can't even say it is only because of ttwd, I think it is the combination, just like the article said.
      And I wouldn't say too much power, just lay back down and relax!

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  7. I liked the article and I also really enjoyed your added comments. I agree with many. Sex is better now for my husband and I then it ever has been. TTWD is part of it for sure! Thanks for sharing, Julia.

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  8. Doggie Style rocks my world :)

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  9. Read this outloud to Mr Bossy. Good discussion points! :)

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  10. Definitely gets better with age :)

    Dee x

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  11. I liked those! But really, a soft clean bed IS my favorite place to do it, it just feels so nice :)

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