Intensity: Pretty stingy and can get very intense. The paddle is very flexible, which is nice, but DH has to watch out that he doens't come to close to my butt crack, otherwise the upper part goes all the way in. Very intense.
Sound level: Slappy, therefore kind of loud
Feeling during spanking: Stingy, not thuddy, quick
DH's comment: "Nice. I need to practice though, the aim is different and it is more floppy"
I have been trying to find, and wait, for the right story to happen so that I could write about this paddle. But life keeps getting in the way: Children throwing up all evening long, real life, tired, step son showing up unannounced. I have even gone so far as to ask for a spanking. Seriously. I have. Are you proud of me yet? I think I have come a long way, instead of withdrawing, and thinking he doesn't care or doesn't want to do ttwd anymore, I have asked for spankings. And yet still, things keep getting in the way.
With this rule came the realization (at least for me) that he really is committed. Making me feel taken care of, taken in hand. This is the whole point of taken in hand, isn't it? Knowing this, having realized this, is like his warm hand on my lower back, guiding me gently through crowds.
Last night, we were once again communicating without words, both realizing it at the same time.
DH: "I wonder what the next ten years will bring. I mean how could this get better? Can couples reach an even better place?"
Good questions right? DH and I are very lucky, but at the same time, we have worked hard at our relationship. To be where we are now, and I hope we get the chance to continue to work on our relationship, to grow together and as individuals.
The Paddle: I noticed DH always grabs our thinner leather paddle, for every single spanking. Don't get me wrong. I am not complaining. I like that paddle too. But I figured I would look into different shapes of leather paddles, and found this one on eBay I gave it to DH a day early for our Valentines Day. I suck at keeping secrets from him, therefore I gave it to him early.
I have to admit, DH looked intimidated. "This is a big paddle love, are you sure?"
"Well it is leather, and I know you like the other one a lot. You don't want to try?" I could hear myself sounding a bit disappointed.
He looked down at the paddle in his hands again, trying it out on his palm. It sounded slappy. He tried out how far it bends, how to hold it. Then turned to me.
"Okay, turn around, bend over the couch" (Not the arm of the couch, just arms out and put my hands on the arm of the couch).
And he tried it over my jeans.
It was a quick spanking, to the point. It was kind of loud (the spanks), and I could see the potential of the paddle to be very stingy.
DH tried this paddle again during our weekend. Naked this time, as in no jeans or panties to soften the blows.
I like this paddle. It is bigger than the other leather one, therefore it covers more, and it kind of distributes the spank more than the thinner one we have. That one can be very painful, the thin two-inch-wide leather often hurts a lot in just one spot. This one is more of a all-of-my-ass-got-spanked feeling.
I am glad we own this paddle. I am looking forward to getting better acquainted with it, although I am sure, I will wonder why I ever wrote that next time I am over DH's lap, getting the daylights smacked out of my butt. But until now, well worth the purchase.