Sunday, August 11, 2013

Back to Work

Hi, DH here.  I've got a job!  I start work tomorrow at a really exciting company, and it seems like a good role.  But most importantly, they are friendly, positive people, who actually seem to want me to work there!
 Julia is excited to get me out of the house, but I should also have some flexibility to work from home once in a while too.  It's a little scary that we've gotten so good at my employment lapses, but I think the truth is that I know I'm a valuable worker, and ttwd has made me a stronger and more dominant man (in and out of the bedroom). and this just makes it easier for me to get fired for political reasons.

I interviewed at a company last week for what looked like a good role, and the second guy to interview me was immediately condescending.  I didn't get it, at all.  Why was someone who worked at a company that is looking to hire a new employee rude to me?  Did he dislike my physical attributes?  The spelling of my name, maybe?  After his hour-long assault, I politely terminated the interview loop and left.  I don't need that.  And I know that I would never want to work with that guy, and by extension, that company.

I thought that Julia would be shocked and angry at my behavior, but she was immediately supportive.  Her friends and family were also, her Mom saying "er ist ein riesiges Gestüt!" (Good for him, I think.)  And that's also the direct effect of my confidence and new strength.  Instead of crying for myself about how hard the world is, I went out and really looked for a good fit for me, professionally.  My friends and family see it too, and instantly side with us when we're under attack.  Just like friends and family should.  :)

Julia is once again leading us a new direction.  She has a sleep blindfold on her nightstand, and she's been dropping hints about being restrained.  Separately, I've been thinking about our roles as dom and sub, and I'd like to try a "submission challenge," where she and I play out our roles overtly in some way for a period of time. Doesn't even have to be a whole day.  What way, though?
Making her stand in the corner all day seems boring. Googling "ttwd submission challenge" made my browser yawn so hard it crashed.  I guess I have my next great idea for a blog title, heh.  I guess it is a challenge to find a way to put Julia in a state of submission for a day in the context of our busy lives, with our children (and the neighborhood's) underfoot, housework, our lives, family, my son here, etc.  Hand signals?  Horsehair shirt?  (Shudder!)  I'm really drawing a blank, although I realize that getting time alone is not on our near horizon it seems.

I'd love to hear your ideas!  I'm reading blogs right now for discipline that I can work into a "normal" life, and I'm excited to throw down a discipline challenge with Julia.  But in the meantime, it's back to work...

33 comments:

  1. I'm so happy you found a job that will be a good fit for you! Congratulations! Sorry I can't help much for your discipline challenge with Julia. I'll be interested in hearing about what you finally work out.

    Hugs, Holla

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    1. Hi Holla! Thanks for your comment and nice wishes. I've been thinking about the challenge idea all day, and I think I may try something tonight, in fact. Stay tuned!

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  2. DH!!! I'm so happy for you!!!!!!! Big high fives !! You are so fortunate to have such amazing support from friends and family.
    I so wish I had some ideas for you, but at this moment, I don't. I'll think about it and if I can come up with something, I'll leave another comment. However, don't hold your breath :)

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    1. Thank you! I know, I am SO lucky. I am lucky with Julia too, and I hope she goes along with our next experiment, lol!

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  3. Hi DH, I'm so happy for you! Congratulations! It's amazing how ttwd boosts our confidence and how it impacts on other areas of life isn't it?

    Sorry, I can't be much help with the submission challenge either. I hope you find something that works well for both of you.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz - thanks! Yep, I'm a firm believer in the benefits to both me and Julia, although I have to admit it's taking me a little while to catch up to the new me, if that makes sense!

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  4. Yayy DH! Congrats on finding a new job, and also congrats on not taking that guys shit! If he was treating you badly then, it's not a good sign of the company, so i'm glad you decided to move past that one.

    The submission challenge sounds really interesting. Whats a horsehair shirt? I can't come up with any ideas off the top of my head, but if I think of any, i'll be sure to let you know!

    Good luck, and hi Julia! :)

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    1. Thanks Kenzie!
      And a horsehair shirt is what people in the middle ages wore underneath clothing as penance...:D

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    2. Hi Kenzie! Thanks! Yeah, I'm already so happy at my new job! And that guy was being a jerk, you're right: I really didn't want to have to work with him.

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  5. Congrats on your new job. Good luck that this one is the right fit and will appreciate what you have to contribute.

    As for ideas, corset, butt plug, no underwear, are some things that come to mind from reading other blogs.

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    1. Thank you sunnygirl. He was out pretty early this morning. We sure enjoyed having him home though.

      Great ideas, I am sure he will like at least two of them!

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    2. Hi sunnygirl! Oooo, corset! Hmmm, that could be really interesting. Julia explained the no underwear thing, as in no underwear under a short skirt on a windy day, or something along those lines. NOW I get it! :D

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    3. I had to explain it to him. lol. I never thought I would have to do that. But he really didn't see the point until I explained, and he got that look in his eyes...

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  6. oh congrats! i am so happy life can get back to a peaceful manner in your house.

    sunnygirl gave great advice. i have none to offer as it's julia's blog i go to for help. lol :)

    good luck you two, and big congrats again.
    m.

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    1. Lol, you are funny maryanne. :) But I agree, those are good ideas...

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    2. Thanks maryanne! I had my first stress-free day at work!

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  7. Congrats congrats!!!

    Hmmm ideas...
    Butt plug, rote control vibe or dildo, spankings on the hour, masturbate at prescribes times, nipple clamps (small and discrete), no undergarments and you pick out her clothes, meditation and writing assignments (about desires, submission, fantasy), request permission to leave the house or go to the bathroom, etc.

    Good luck, can't wait to hear about how it all goes!!!

    Hugs,
    Fiona

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    1. What a lovely list you wrote here fiona, and I am so happy to see you!!!
      We have done the request to go to the bathroom, but I think we both didn't necessary like it. I might be wrong though, we will have to wait for DH to comment. :)

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    2. Hi Fiona - awesome list, thanks! I remember doing the bathroom request and I agree with Julia that we didn't like it, but maybe it needs to be for everything instead of just the water closet, lol! I like the remote control vibe idea, too, yeah, pretty much everything on the list, heh. Thanks! I will definitely keep you posted on how it goes.

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  8. Congrats!! I bet your happy to get back to work.

    As far as submission exercises go, I had to once wear pearl thongs while also using the remote control egg. He of course controlled the remote and of course he took me out to for the day while doing this little exercise.

    Good luck on the new job!
    Kim

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    1. Ahh, that does not sound that fun, quite honestly. lol. A pearl thong? I think you posted about that, right?

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    2. Hi Kim - wow! Hmm, that's an interesting idea! I like it. :)

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  9. Dude, ultimate power/alpha move way to go!

    I wish I had the same fortitude as you did about a year ago. I was interviewing for with the CEO of this company, it was like the 3rd and final interview in the process. I was and am employed, so I had scheduled these interviews on my lunch hours and this one in particular I had booked time off to go to.

    He made me wait 45 minutes, then when the interview started it was like one disrespectful, condescending shot after another.

    When it was done, and we were exchanging pleasantries I was saying one thing in my mind (yeah nice day to you too, you fucking prick, thanks for wasting my morning) but my mouth was saying something else, I immediately wished I did what you did; nice work.

    As for the Dom/Sub thing, best of luck, I wish I had something to offer. I guess if Julia is into blindfolds and restraints then maybe brainstorm on something around that.

    ~PB

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    1. Hey PB, thanks for your comment, it really means a lot. Julia just said, "I'll bet no one has ever described you that way before!" She's right, I've prided myself on my non-alpha qualities (as in, don't be a jerk), but lately I've also learned to hold my ground.

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    2. Well, always a time and place for both in my opinion. And your example certainly called for an alpha move for sure.

      ~PB

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  10. Congratulations on your new job!! Have you tried figging yet? I Luuuurve it. my new favorite thing.

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    1. Hi Renee Rose, whoa! I had no idea of what figging is, but after looking it up, I'm definitely interested! I love me some good ginger! :)

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  11. CONGRATS DH!!! Way to bust an Alpha move!! Way to stick to your guns and not accept anything just because you needed a job. There is NOTHING worse than getting up every morning and hating where you're going. Good luck and I hope you continue to be happy in your new job!

    As for the help.....sorry I got nothing. We are newbies and learn from blogs like this one!!!! So please post the results!! Oh and good luck to you Julia....I hope it's fun!!!

    Subrina <3

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    1. Thanks Sabrina! I really like the new job so far! :) I will definitely post our results. :)

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  12. Mine once made it where every time I had to use the restroom, I had to masturbate to the brink - no cumming- before allowed to urinate. I actually had errands that day, and visited quite a few public restrooms. I would have to email him about each encounter. Then, at a certain time I was allowed to release, but only at that time. If I was unable to be in the position to release I was given one more time frame. Best believe I made myself available the first time frame given. It wasn't a range of time either, it was at x time, no sooner or no later.

    Congrats on the job.

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    1. Hi His slut, that sounds like an EXCELLENT idea, thanks! We could do at home too (at least to practice, heheh). Thanks for the idea, and the nice wishes! :)

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  13. I have been tied up the last few days (no, not literally) and hadn't seen this good news yet. I am so thrilled for you both! And so impressed that you didn't let any fear of extended unemployment affect your good judgement and you didn't allow yourself to be treated poorly. From the sound of the interview, it was a really good indication of how you would have been treated every day!

    I don't have a single good idea for you, but I'm looking forward to reading whatever you two decide to do!

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    1. Thanks, rednakedy! It's really the CONFIDENCE shining through that helped us both not worry about the break in employment. In fact, Julia has calculated that we should only need to take a few hundred dollars out of our savings to weather the storm, which should be easy to pay back once we have a couple of paychecks, lol.

      Don't tell Julia, but I'm going to try the blindfold tonight, and try tying her up with scarves, socks, or whatever I can find. I'll report back. :-D

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