Thursday, September 5, 2013

Make it so, Number One!

First things first: I love my beautiful wife.

Julia and I are certified Trekkies.  Well, to be honest I'm pretty sure our certifications have lapsed.  William Shatner was in town recently, and I didn't even NOTICE.  However, one of the things we love about each other is that we both watched Star Trek TNG long before we met.  We've loved watching the new movies too, and I'm personally really happy with how Mr. Abrams is running the show.

Last night, after I read Julia's post, I went looking for TNG clips on YouTube that featured Riker backing down Picard.  I know I've seen one episode in particular, where Picard is giving increasingly unreasonable commands (he turns out to be an alien, or controlled by one, I can't quite remember) and Riker finally say's, "No!"  This theme occurs more than once throughout, but the basic idea is that the 1st Officer has the right and responsibility to challenge commands if and when required, and the Captain has the responsiblity to delegate and TRUST his mate.

Our financial situation isn't pretty at the moment.  When I was growing up, my Dad taught us that if we worked hard every day, we would be successful in life.  He was right!  I enjoyed many happy years working for a large company, and had a good income, 401K, great benefiets, etc.  We really had everything we wanted.  When the economy collapsed, however, we lost it all.  I got angry!  I didn't understand what had happened.  How could working hard not be enough?  Why couldn't I get a job?  It slowly dawned on me that the system my Dad had supported and believed in was broken. The 1% had pooped in the pool so much there wasn't any water for the rest of us.

Fast-forward to this year.  I'd been working for an even LARGER corporation for a year, and had single-handedly made the company more than $30 million in a very lucrative contract.  The company took the work I did, and the money, and then just... fired me.  I got a 1 month "severance package" (so they didn't really "fire" me, but they wanted me to be quiet), and that was it.  I was free to find a new job.  And even though I did within 3 weeks, it wasn't enough to keep us from living out of our savings account.  That's the job market right now.  You can do a fantastic job, make a TON 'O CASH for the Man, and then sent packing at a whim.  People just don't matter in today's economy.

I was mad yesterday.  Not at Julia, but at being robbed by these fuckers who have everything and DON'T SHARE.  I know they can't really help it at this point - they've been hopelessly corrupted by the money and power they've helped themselves to, all safe and secure in 740 Park Avenue.  But that's no excuse to try to hijack Julia's excellent management of our finances, which is a job I delegated to her, and have trusted her with without exception.

I'm sorry, my love.  You really are the best wife in the world.  I love you.

-DH

18 comments:

  1. Loyality in the corporate world does not exist. Users all.

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    1. Yep! Agreed. But my complaint is that every corporation is a PERSON at some level. Every company was started, at some point, by a PERSON. And the big companies make all of their money FROM people! So, like 20 years ago, I wish there was at least SOME acknowledgement in the workplace that we are the ones that make it all work. ;)

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  2. This is so sweet!

    Im with you on your thoughts about the workforce and the non existence of loyalty towards hard working employees in today's world. My H often says he was born at the wrong time, that he was meant to live in the 50's.
    Kim

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    1. Ha ha! I think we were ALL meant to live in the 50's! Thanks Kim!

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  3. what a great post... corporate America sucks & only going to get worse with the 'entitlement' generation.

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    1. Hi His slut - agreed. Sigh. :(

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  4. Im in the UK and its no different over here, the 'fat cats' are out for themselves and i dont see that changing anytime soon....but

    what a beautiful testement to Julia, to you both.

    x

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  5. Yep to all of this post. And I would throw in how pissed off we were in this house at the $$$$$$$$$$$$ bonuses those big corporations who got government bailouts gave to the very same high up bigwigs who pretty much caused the problems in the first place. Where's our $&^#ing bailout? We'd have to file bankruptcy to get one and nobody is standing in line to give US a bonus.

    And the whole issue of forced health insurance is not going to make anything any better. Around here that just means more and more people are having their hours cut down to 30 per week so the employers won't have to insure them. It looks like soon the whole workforce will consist of nothing but 30 hour per week employees. Don't get me wrong, I think we should all be able to have insurance (at an affordable rate) but the way they are going about it is really messing things up around here.

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    1. Hi rednakedy! God, that's really horrible that hour cutting is already underway. Yeah, we had a friend that posted a picture on fb with all of credit cards cut up, and then we found out that she just declared bankruptcy to get out of paying the bills. We're not friends anymore. ;)

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  6. Hi DH!

    WOW what a great post. I'm sorry to hear about the financial troubles and corporate America bending you over and giving it to you (without any foreplay!!!) I'm happy to hear that you have a good job and can move forward. It's probably going to be tough to get back on track but it sounds like you have a great CFO in your house. And way to go for giving her props!!

    Good luck to you both!

    Subrina <3

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    1. Lol! Yep, that's exactly how it felt! Maybe someday I'll write a post on my plan for vengeance... >.<

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  7. i have to tell you i ADORE how julia will post something and then dh will post his reply or apology, as the case might be. :) it's darling, really.

    julia's "well, you are not!!!" made me laugh so hard i almost wet myself. lol honestly though, she IS being submissive with the finances because i KNOW tons of girlfriends who spend all the money on absolute trash, nothing important whatsoever and land themselves in the sink hole of life. it's pitiful. i'm so glad that julia has the where with all to not spend, keep track of what she's not spending and take that money and pay off stuff that was already purchased. lol good for you two!

    this was sweet and i adore julia, too. she's one smart cookie.

    hugs,
    m.

    ps: i'm sorry about your job situation. we've been there. i hope all will work out soon!

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    1. Hi maryanne - I totally agree, Julia's post was awesome! And I have to admit that I didn't really talk to her until I posted this one, but it IS very much a conversation between us, lol! You're right about Julia being responsible with our money, too. She really, really is. :-D

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  8. Hey DH,

    Let me first just say I love the fact that you are both Trekkies LoL. Seriously, it is wonderful to have something in common that you both enjoy isn't it?

    Much kudos for posting this. Very sweet. I like what you said about the first officer having the right to challenge commands if and when required and the commander having the responsibility to delegate and trust the first mate.

    I'm sorry you have been treated so badly by Corporate America. It's not much different here. The 'fat cats' continue to line their own pockets at the expense of others. I'm glad you now have a good job and can slowly more forward.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. HI Roz - thank you! I think the Captain/First Officer metaphor is really appropriate for our version of ttwd. I'm in charge as HOH, but also have a responsibility to Julia (and our children) to be a good leader. And yeah, corporate America is already feeling the burn, I think, now that the economy is recovering a little. The company I just starting working for is very suddenly interested in retaining people, now that they want to make some money! Heh.

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  9. I'm definitely not a Trekkie (though I do like the original series)but I enjoyed this post. :) Sorry to hear about the financial aspects, but you have each other, and that's something many can only wish for :)

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