Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Sexual Maturity

A quick search for Sexual Maturity brought me to Wikipedia, which defines it as the age or stage an organism can reproduce. But when it comes to humans, I think the maturity part should refer to actual sexual maturity. Just because somebody is old enough to have sex doesn't mean they will have the maturity to actually deal with what is going on.

I know I was sheltered compared to kids growing up these days. Even though we don't have to worry about teenage stuff just yet with our kids, we are very aware as parents about porn on the internet. (Kind of funny coming from me now that I think about it, being the writer of a spanking blog) I think kids these days
are more likely to stumble on pornographic material one way or another sooner rather that later.
But I also remember that my mother never explained anything to me, and the whole topic was very off with her. She had relationships here and there (not many), but they were clearly boyfriends, and not father figures. The only things I did know, I knew because my sister was four years older than me.

Well, the other day, DH was whispering something naughty into my ear while we were taking a shower together. You know, to conserve water.  :D I realized that what he had said would have made me blush not two years prior. I would have changed the subject really quickly, and then hoped he would follow up later and do it anyway.
One part of this sexual maturity I refer to is the fact that I now understand DH better, and know he needs some sign from me that that is what I indeed want - Better and more honest communication not just with him, but with myself.

This understanding I have come to also led me to admit that I have finally come to really trust DH, tell him what I want without having to fear ridicule, mockery, or who knows what. This trust we have developed has definitely lead to my own sexual maturing.

What boggles my mind sometimes is that we have been together for more than ten years now, and still I can say, our sex life has improved over the last two years. And its the truth! The fact that these things don't make me blush anymore (or at least less) are a clear sign of my sexual maturity, and it makes sense, lol. No longer a spring chicken of 18, but 31. (Thank you for all my wonderful birthday wishes btw).

12 comments:

  1. Julia, I still blush at some things my hubby says to me! Lol. But there has definitely been a sexual maturing the past few years...and giving that total trust over can be hard but it's SO worth it.

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    1. I still do too, just not as easily, mostly. :)

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  2. I love this Julia. I think it's great that you have developed such a level of communication and trust. Honest communication isn't always so easy when it comes to sex.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Yeah, I know, it took me many years. :) Thanks Roz.

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  3. I'm sure your DH is loving the benefits of your sexual maturity =)

    This post made me smile, I get what your saying.

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    1. You are right, he has been enjoying the benefits, and I think its why we have been so in tune lately. :)

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  4. I don't know why we blush with our husbands. Haven't a clue. It's taken me twice your number of years to stop blushing, enjoy what is on offer, and make demands myself.

    TTWD drew on facets of our souls we never knew we had. You are lucky because you discovered these things whilst you are both still very young. I am almost jealous, but just thankful that for us it is now a way of life and the norm. When I remember those first few tentative spanks, and now, years later what benefits we are reaping, I just can't believe it.

    Hugs
    Ami

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    1. Hi Ami - thank you for such a beautiful comment. I too am incredibly thankful for the benefits Julia and I have both received, and we love our lives together. Very happy for you and your husband!

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  5. Ami said it well! You are a spring chicken. I was an innocent just a bit younger than you! Be glad you are able to savor what you have now!
    And.... Totally agree about protecting our children from too much exposure... Too young.
    I was exposed to porn babysitting at someone's home..... WAY to young! Wish I was much older and ready for all that info!

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    1. Hi Minelle, sorry for such a late response. Julia is a Spring Chicken! I'm more of a summer chicken (ahem) but we are both savoring our bond. We are also so thankful for the incredible support and friendship you and our readers have given. Thank you. ♡

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    2. Hi Minelle, sorry for such a late response. Julia is a Spring Chicken! I'm more of a summer chicken (ahem) but we are both savoring our bond. We are also so thankful for the incredible support and friendship you and our readers have given. Thank you. ♡

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    3. Hi Minelle, sorry for such a late response. Julia is a Spring Chicken! I'm more of a summer chicken (ahem) but we are both savoring our bond. We are also so thankful for the incredible support and friendship you and our readers have given. Thank you. ♡

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