Sunday, March 25, 2018

An Update of Sort

Hello Blogland.

Its been so long since I have had a moment to even think about this blog. So much has happened. We added life,  we lost life, the cycle of life has been very present at our house over the last couple of years.

I know we have blogged since we had our latest addition. She is such a ray of sunshine, we all feel so blessed to have her in our life. DH is doing well. He was laid off a couple times last year, but bounced back up.
My mom however, was diagnosed with cancer just after we had DD3 (Dear Daughter 3), uncurable. She passed away 8.5 months later.
Its been so hard to learn to live without a mother. So hard. I look around the people in my life, and it turns out, I am actually pretty alone in not having parents anymore. Most people (like DH who still has both his parents, and they are still together) don't want to even think about losing a parent and therefore never talk about it. Like my loss, something so present on my mind.
I have chalked it up to part of growing up on my part.

All this hasn't left any time or headspace for bedroom play. And yet, we are doing well, DH and I. The state of our Union is strong, and I think its because the basic ground rules we lay down while exploring ttwd are still in place and being followed. By both of us. It taught us to be together better, understand the other better, but also leave your ego at the door because in the end, you just want to figure out how to be together. Right?

I am not even sure if anybody who cares about us still reads here, but there it is. An update. On life.

12 comments:

  1. Congratulations on the new baby. Condolences for the loss of your mom. So happy that you and DH are doing well despite everything life has thrown at you. 💞

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    1. Faerie, so nice to see you still in Blogland. Thank you.

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  2. Thanks for the update...you have been experiencing life to the fullest, all the cycles. It is so good to hear that all is well with your union. Hugs abby

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    1. thank you abby. Yes, we are strong. Fused together it seems lately even though he is working crazy at the moment.

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  3. Hi Julia,

    It's so good to hear from you. Glad to hear you and DH are doing well.

    I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom. I too lost mine a month before Christmas and understand what you are going through. Losing a parent is hard. Much of my energy is now focused on worrying about Dad and how he is coping.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. I am so sorry for you loss too Roz. My mom came and stayed with us the months before she died and I and baby accompanied her home what turned out to be just 15 days before she died in October.
      Hope you Dad is coping ok.

      Hug, Julia

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  4. Hello Julia, its so good to hear from you. You have had so much happen in your life over the last few years. Sorry your lost your mum. I too lost both my parents when I was in my 20s. So I know how it feels to grow up without parents for support. Email me if you want to chat. lindylouthomas1979@gmail.com Its good to hear you and DH are still going strong with TTWD.
    Take care. Sending positive vibes your way.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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    1. Lindy,
      Thank you so much for your kind words, that is super sweet of you. I am sorry you lost both your parents too that early.
      I have to say, I am a bit surprised to see so many names I still recognize here on my blog, and posting too. Very awesome!

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  5. I know you never get to a place where you don't need your mom. I'm so sorry you lost her. I'm sure is was especially hard as you were having another little one who wouldn't get to know her. But at the same time what a joy this little one must be to you. Most importantly I'm glad that you and DH are strong.

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    1. Thank you PK, you are right, she is such a joy and I feel so blessed to have her with me.
      <3

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  6. I actually just came by yesterday to see if there was anything posted. I am so sorry to hear you have lost your mom. I lost both my parents, my husband still has both of his.
    I've most definitely missed your blog though I am not part of blogland - I just absorb information - and this blog was part of that exploration. We are now a DD couple. A very slow moving one, but one nevertheless.

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  7. I do not believe I have written before, but I have loved reading some of your posts, and DH's recently. Been learning a lot. I am sorry about your mother. Even though mine has moved in, we are not close, and it is doubtful we ever will be, so in that regard, I can't say I understand, but having lost people close to me, I know it can really hurt. I am sorry for your loss. In the same breath, I am glad you have new life, and such a blessing in your home to help you find joy each day. :) Little ones are so good at doing that. :)
    EsMay

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